thealogie:

whatever happens it’s so important that we’re funny about it. Above all else commit to the bit

bug-mp3:

professors-pet:

bug-mp3:

they should make it easier

what?

Everything. All of it

beetledrink:

not to be insensitive but some of the salem witch trials were so funny bitches like “i saw her at the devils sacrament!!!” girl… what were YOU doing at the devils sacrament 👀

patronbeast:

girlballs:

shoutout to hedonism. get naked and eat cheese

animatedtext:

funnytwittertweets:

gulistan-blog:

㋡🥀

i need to be working and packing for my trip this weekend but instead i am spinning about this thought i just had:

the relationship of my masc identity to my pain means that when people see me in emotional hardship or pain they sometimes respond to me with toxic masculinity. 

when we think about toxic masculinity we think about men who do shitty things. but toxic masculinity is also part of a patriarchal system that says men cannot be “weak”. men cannot be “emotional”. men shouldn’t cry. men should suck it up, be strong, take care of things. 

i’m not a man. but my masculinity sometimes means i am subject to the pressures of toxic masculinity. 

and here’s the thing i’m spinning on: i’ve never looked at it that way. much of my life i have wondered why when i was in hardship people responded…not gently. not with love and support. i have wondered why my tears bothered people so much. and i thought about all the things that feel intrinsic in that (which, for the record, are likely also true, rarely are our experiences made up of one simple thing): i have an issue with hyper independence, i am an acts of service kind of lover, i have been taking care of myself since i was very young and i’ve gotten good at that, i rarely ask for help, i rarely break into pieces, i rarely fall apart, i am often remarked upon as the steady friend, the steady lover, the person who can get it done and take care of others and also maybe most people are just uncomfortable with tears in a way i am not, i worked hard to be able to feel my emotions and maybe others just haven’t gotten there yet…………..i have thought about those things. 

i have not thought about how my masc identity overlaps me in people’s minds with maleness. but i was watching this brene brown video (she starts talking about shame in men at around the 16:10 min mark) again and it struck me…that’s what it feels like. ‘they’d rather watch me die on top of my white horse than see me fall down’ and ‘always show emotional control’………that’s what it feels like. 

for a lot of reasons, i have not had the time and space and tools to examine how my identity (in all its varied colors) intersects with my interpersonal relationships. i’ve been very focused on my personal, individual experiences. 

so this is your reminder: take some time in your writing practice, in your therapy sessions, in your quiet coffee musings in the mornings or shower thoughts, to consider how your interpersonal relationships and how you move through the world may be impacted by your identity (in all its varied colors) and the cultural norms and systems you’re existing in. it may give you a whole new lens through which to see things. 

stay strong. stay soft.   

desinteresse:

ENOUGH! We are ALL going to take a ceramics class 😤

jermarvin:

me as a gnome: dude i am gettting so crossfaded on these raspberries blackberries and strawberries

gatheringbones:

[“If you’ve been told your whole life that you are worthless, what good is your word? When I have done political organizing in a lesbian context, one of the things that I learned there was that we had a constituency of people, many of whom had been told all their lives that they were nothing. Many had never had or used power, did not know how to be proactive, felt that their only power was to be obstructive. A lot of times lesbians would come into a room determined that the only way they could express themselves was to stop something. When we created the Lesbian Avengers in 1992, we had to create a rule that if you disagreed with a proposal you couldn’t just critique it; you had to make a better suggestion. This drove people wild because they didn’t have the skill or authority to be proactive and create things, to negotiate, to face and deal with problems, to propose solutions. They only knew how to obstruct and destroy. That’s what you’re dealing with here. We have it on a lot of different fronts. If we take your idea and expand it—what you are talking about is a real gay family.”]

sarah schulman, ties that bind: familial homophobia and its consequences

gideonisms:

I LOVE being alive so I can be mediocre at SO many different hobbies